Influencerica zbog ove fotografije izgubila stotine pratitelja u samo nekoliko minuta

Nadiu Bokody na Instagramu trenutno prate preko 52 tisuće ljudi. Njezin je profil prepun fotografija koje potiču na pozitivu, no zbog jedne je fotografije izgubila brojne pratitelje.

Radi se o fotografiji koja se i vizualno razlikuje od ostatka njenog profila – neuređena je, zrnata i Nadia na njoj ne izgleda veselo kao na ostalim fotkama, a jedna joj je ruka prekrivena zavojem.

To je fotografija uz koju je progovorila o nečem vrlo osobnom – samoozljeđivanju.

Većina fotki na mom profilu ne pokazuje stvarnost. Moja stvarnost nije isprobavanje lijepih haljina, smijeha i veselja ispred zgodnih pozadina. Moja je stvarnost u većini slučajeva sretna, ali ne i savršena. Ponekad: moja stvarnost izgleda ovako, započinje ona, prenosi Index.hr.

 

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TRIGGER WARNING: Self harm.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I debated posting this. It’s unfiltered and grainy and not pretty or pink like the rest of my aesthetic. As someone with a personal brand to uphold, I often feel pressure to produce advertiser-friendly content.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Which means the majority of my feed doesn’t reflect my reality. Because my reality isn’t flitting around in pretty dresses all day, laughing and smiling in front of aesthetically pleasing backdrops.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ My reality is, for the most part, happy, but not perfect. And sometimes it’s this. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ This picture was taken this weekend, after I was discharged from hospital for relapsing and self-harming (in case you’re new here, I have BPD and am in treatment for it). ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ I didn’t want to post this because, besides the fact it’s not particularly visually appealing, it reveals a side of me I let few people actually see. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ But a conversation with a mental health worker in hospital inspired me to post this. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Because I have a platform. And that means I have the power to use it to make other people feel less alone. To remind you never to compare yourself to anyone else’s ‘Insta-perfect’ life. And most of all, to not punish yourself for your mistakes. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Yeah, I slipped up this weekend. It hurt me and it hurt people I love. But that doesn’t make me a failure. It makes me a human being who is in recovery and doing the best I can with the tools I have accessible to me every day. ⁣Sometimes I do brilliantly at it, other times, not so much.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ There was a time I would have been incredibly ashamed to tell the truth about why I have a bandage on my arm. I would have had a litany or excuses ready if anyone asked. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Now I see it as merely a reminder of the fact that, just like everyone else, I am on a journey, and just like everyone else, sometimes I stumble along the way. And, so long as I get back up and try again, that’s OK. ⁣ ⁣ It’s OK to not always be OK. Just know you never have to walk the path alone. 💜

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Ovo je fotka snimljena ovog vikenda nakon što sam otpuštena iz bolnice nakon što sam se vratila samoozljeđivanju (za one koji ne znaju, patim od graničnog poremećaja ličnosti i zbog toga sam na terapiji). Nisam je htjela objaviti jer, osim što nije baš vizualno privlačna, otkriva dio mene za koji malo ljudi zna, ali sam se nakon razgovora s liječnikom predomislila, piše Nadia.

U nastavku je objasnila da se predomislila jer ima platformu preko koje može komunicirati s ljudima kako bi se i oni osjećali manje usamljenima na svijetu.

 

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This week I let my editor convince me to do what turned out to be one of the most confronting things I’ve done in my life: Walk through the crowded streets of Sydney in a ‘naked’ style romper. Here’s just a few things I’ve learned so far, writing this column:⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✖️Camel toes are a real and serious issue.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✖️Little old ladies are SAVAGE when it comes to telling you what they REALLY think about your look.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✖️I’m nowhere near as body confident as I thought I was.⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ✖️Attempting to use the restroom in a bodysuit is a complex and frustrating endeavour not suited to the faint-hearted or tiny bladdered. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ …Read the rest of what I learnt from walking around Sydney with a camel toe in my column on @newscomauhq later this week. (Outfit by #prettylittlething )

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Posrnula sam ovog vikenda. Povrijedila sam sebe i ljude koje volim, ali to me ne čini propalitetom. Čini me ljudskim bićem koje se oporavlja i čini sve što može. Ponekad mi to uspijeva, ponekad ne.

Nekad bih osjećala prevelik sram da kažem istinu o tome zašto mi je ruka u zavoju.

Imala bih čitav niz isprika, ali danas to shvaćam samo kao podsjetnik da sam na putu do oporavka i da na tom putu, baš kao i svi ostali, ponekad posrnem. Sve dok se vraćam na noge i pokušavam ponovo, to je u redu. U redu je da nismo uvijek u redu. Samo znajte da niste sami u tome, zaključila je.

U članku koji je napisala za news.com.au Nadia otvoreno priznaje da se s mentalnim poremećajem bori već 20 godina te da se počela samoozljeđivati zbog nemogućnosti da se nosi s intenzivnim emocijama koje su rezultat tog poremećaja.

Samoozljeđivanje je mnogo češća pojava nego što to imamo prilike vidjeti na društvenim mrežama. Procjenjuje se da to radi jedna od pet žena i jedan od sedam muškaraca. Do toga tipično dolazi jer se osoba ne može suočiti s teretom intenzivnih emocija. Većina osoba koja se samoozljeđuje čini to kako bi osjetila emotivno olakšanje, piše Nadia.

U samo nekoliko minuta, navodi, izgubila je stotinu pratitelja. Do večeri bilo ih je 400 manje.

Iako je do kraja tjedna izgubila brojne pratitelje, tvrdi da joj nije žao jer su joj se javili i brojni korisnici koji su se prepoznali u njenoj situaciji.

Zbog toga sam se riješila srama i preuzela kontrolu nad svojom pričom. Shvatila sam da me moja bolest ne definira. Da imam sposobnost uzeti svoju najveću slabost i iskoristiti je da se povežem s drugima. Nikakav uspjeh na socijalnim medijima nije vrjedniji od toga, zaključila je.

Priznala je da se dugo sramila pisati o tome, no da je ipak odlučila podijeliti svoju priču.

 

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It’s confounding to me how much animosity there is toward people in the sex work industry. ⁣⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve been privileged through my job as a sex columnist, to connect and form friendships with dozens of people from various parts of the sex work community – from escorts, to camgirls and porn stars, and I can honestly say, hands down, these people have shown me by far the most warmth and kindness I’ve ever experienced from any community. ⁣⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There’s still a HUGE misunderstanding that sex work is sleazy, ‘desperate’ work. The reality is, sex workers are some of the most altruistic, selfless people you’ll come across in your life. Their work might get people off, sure, but beyond that, it offers a real catalyst for connection to people who’d otherwise be isolated and cut off from physical pleasure and intimacy. Sex work supports the disabled community, it supports the LGBTQIA+ community, it supports people of all ages, races and ethnicities, and most profoundly – it doesn’t shame. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Whether it’s watching porn or seeking the services of an escort, in the sex work industry, everyone is included. Regardless of your kink, disability, gender, sexuality, ethnicity or history, you can always be guaranteed to feel seen and validated by sex workers. And honestly, what other industry can say that?⁣⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⁣⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So before you judge a sex worker, consider the ways their work is helping people feel acknowledged, valued and connected. I’m yet to meet a sex worker without a beautiful soul and an incredibly kind, loving spirit. And most of all, I’m thankful every day this job has led me to be able to call many of the people in this field my friends. 💜💜💜 . #sexworkisrealwork #sexworkiswork #sexworkersrights #sexworkersunite #sexworkpositive #sexpositive #sexpositivity #sexpositiveculture

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