Alex Howard je terapeut i autor literature koja se prvenstveno bavi traumama iz djetinjstva.
Kako je objavio u nedavnom videu na TikToku, u svojoj praksi sve češće susreće odrasle ljude koji često nisu ni svjesni da su imali toksične roditelje, prenosi Index Mame.
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Pritom objašnjava kako postoje određeni znakovi zahvaljujući kojima možemo prepoznati da se radi o roditelju koji se ponaša na toksičan način.
Dr. Howard navodi kako je najveći pokazatelj da je roditelj toksičan stalna potreba da se sve vrti oko njega i njegovih želja ili potreba. Bez obzira na to što osjeća dijete, toksični roditelji uvijek će svoje potrebe stavljati na prvo mjesto.
Drugi znak koji pokazuje da je netko toksičan roditelj jest da je uvijek u stanju izokrenuti određenu situaciju, problem ili osjećaje svoje djece. Naime, ovakvi roditelji pokušavaju, i to najčešće emocionalnom manipulacijom, uvjeriti svoje dijete da je njegov način razmišljanja pogrešan, a način na koji razmišlja roditelj jedini ispravan.
I treći znak toksičnog roditelja jest nedostatak bilo kakvih granica. Kada njihovo dijete kaže ”ne”, ovi roditelji to ne vide kao granicu ili odbijanje, već kao priliku da dijete uvjere da bi ipak trebalo pristati na ono što su tražili od njega. Ne poštuju mišljenje svoje djece, već samo svoje vide kao ispravno.
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